Answer me this #1

[gategrrl]

If for an hour you could ask your parents any questions you wanted and knew they'd tell you the absolute unvarnished truth, what would you ask? Pretend they'd answer every question and then forget they'd even talked to you. (#268)


That's a question, isn't it? Hmm. I'll have to think about this one.

What were your reactions when you were 19 and 20, and you were suddenly expecting a child?
What do you *really* think about your sisters and brothers and your parents?
Are you disappointed with me? Do you sometimes wish I was more like my brother or sister?
Where do you get your motivation?

And I'm sure there are others...but there are questions I don't think I'd want answered, frankly. I'd want the option to forget the answers, too, if I didn't like what I heard.

 

Comments

[szeretni.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure I'd want to hear what they think about me, but I guess I would like to know what they really thought of their parents and what their upbringing was like. Stuff like that, because that would actually help me in understanding them and why they are how they are...

I don't talk about it much, but I will write more about this stuff this year. My relationship with my family is kinda weird and I've grown up feeling like they never loved me at all. It's still kinda weird even if I logically know that they love me. It's just complicated...

[gategrrl.livejournal.com]

EVERY parent-child relationship is complicated, I think. Some are weirder than others, for sure.

It's hard feeling like a cow-bird. (a cow-bird is a bird that lays its eggs in another bird's nest, and lets the other bird, of another species, even! raise and feed the cow-bird nestling. It's not a precise analogy, but you understand what I'm getting at?)

There are many different kinds of love.

[betacandy.livejournal.com]

I can't even wrap my mind around this one, because I think my mom IS as honest as she's capable of being, but my dad... he is actually incapable of being honest, and also does not perceive reality *remotely* the way most of us do. It's part of his condition.

But if he was capable of answering honestly, in terms that would make sense to someone without his condition, I think I'd like to know more about his childhood and how his mother treated him.

I can honestly not give a fuck what he thinks of me. I already know, and if he was proud of me, I'd fear I'd run over a homeless person in my car and laughed about it and then blocked out the memory. ;)